When we look back on David’s life, we see that he made some wrong choices, choices that resulted in years of grief and pain.
We have seen some of the consequences of his sin in his own life and the lives of others.
Today we are addressing not so much the guilt of his sin but rather the grief he suffered as a consequence.
The loss of Saul and Jonathan caused deep grief for him though; this was not the fault of David.
Saul committed suicide, and Jonathan was killed in battle on the same day.
On this occasion, David expressed his grief by writing a lamentation called “The Bow” Sam 3: 17-27
He grieved the death of Abner by the hand of Joab. David expressed grief and anger over the cold-blooded murder and wept at the grave of Abner; he wrote another lamentation.
I would call it: “As Fools die.” . 2 Sam 3:33-39. 2 Sam 3:31-37.
He did make the point by publicly showing his grief, so people would understand he was not at fault for this tragic death.
The next occasion was the loss of his newborn baby. This resulted from his sin with Bathsheba and the deliberate death of Uriah at his command. There was no grief shown by David for Uriah’s death, as he was the cause of his demise. But through the conviction of sin, David eventually repented.
His grief this time was mixed with hope. He knew that if the infant died, he would see him again, but that was up to God.
Then as you read about his reaction to the death of Amnon, he accepted it quickly, as his mind was grieving over the loss of all his sons.
Look now how he reacted over the death of Absalom; he wept and mourned grieving for his son, causing guilt and shame in his loyal soldiers, thinking only of his loss and not of the victory of the battle and all the lives saved, including his own.
It was Joab that saved the day! Look over the book of second Samuel.
As you have noticed that grief is different for everyone and everyone reacts to it differently, there is no set pattern to how you must grieve.
GRIEF IS A STRONG SOMETIMES AN OVERWHELMING EMOTION YOU MAY EXPERIENCE IN THE MIDST OF PERSONAL LOSS.
IT A NATURAL RESULT OF LOSS.
This can mean the loss of a loved one through death.
The loss of a job.
The ending of a personal relationship.
Loss through theft.
The loss of your independence through sickness or disability.
There are so many other areas that cause grief.
HOW LONG DOES IT LAST?
It can take months or years. There is no set time, and the pain of it may settle as you adapt to life without that person or thing.
It doesn’t just magically end. You think that grief may be over. Then like an unexpected, giant wave, it overwhelms you, dumps you, leaving you to struggle on the bottom of the ocean.
Grief can also be unpredictable; it does not always happen on an anniversary or other special days of the year. Memories have their distress part, so you are not failing, for it shows how important the loved one was to you.
Try not to pass judgment on someone taking longer than you, when your loved one died.
Your senses can trigger the pain of your loss.
SIGHT. A look-alike!
TASTE. A favourite eating place!
TOUCH. A friendly hug!
SMELL. Her Perfume!
HEAR. The familiar tune you both loved!
You are allowed to cry; God permits you to weep. No one understands like Jesus. Oh, how much He cares for you. Jesus will never abandon you.
In Isa 53, we are told that Jesus bore our griefs and sorrows. Give every negative emotion to Jesus and He will heal your broken heart.
“BY THE WOUNDS THAT WOUNDED HIM YOU ARE ALREADY HEALED” Claim this truth and make it your own.
In 1 Thess 4:13-17. He comforts us with these words:
“DON’T WEEP AS THOSE WHO HAVE NO HOPE,”
(Don’t let grief overwhelm you.) Because when Jesus returns, He will bring with him your believing loved one, and you will rise together to be ever with the Lord. Never to part again!
IT IS NOT ” GOODBYE.” IT IS ”GOOD NIGHT. ”
”SEE YOU IN THE MORNING.”
THERE IS ONLY ONE DIMENSION BETWEEN TIME AND ETERNITY. YOUR BELOVED IS ONLY SECONDS AWAY FROM YOU.
I know all this because Jesus not only died but rose again!
See this most excellent scripture in John 11:25. Jesus said this of Himself.
“I AM THE RESURRECTION AND THE LIFE. WHOSOEVER LIVES AND BELIEVES IN ME, ALTHOUGH HE MAY DIE, YET HE WILL LIVE!” Only our bodies die, but our spirit and soul live forever with Him.
YOU MAY ALLOW GRIEF TO CRUSH YOU, OR YOU CAN, BY IT, DRAW CLOSER TO THE ONE WHO LOVES AND CARES FOR YOU HE TASTED DEATH FOR EVERY MAN.
So dear grieving One, let not your heart be troubled or afraid. Move forward in the knowledge that, for the Christian:You may like to read John 14:1-6.
DEATH HAS NO STING, NOR IS THE GRAVE VICTORIOUS!
THE CHOICE IS YOURS.
IS IT HEAVEN OR HELL?
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THE HOPE OF SEEING YOUR LOVED ONE AGAIN AND YOU RECEIVING ETERNAL LIFE!!