We live in a sad, sad, sin-sick world, where there is a very high percentage of people that are suffering abuse of some kind or have been abused in their past and still carry deep wounds that affect their lives today.
To call to mind the story of Tamar’s rape, scroll back to her account on this Website, “The Rape of Tamar.”
Tamar, according to the Law of her day, now dressed in widow’s clothes, could never marry or be in a relationship at all. As far as we know, she lived a DESOLATE life.
Nothing she said or did, made it suitable for Amnon to rape her. He not only violated her body, he deeply wounded her soul. He lured her with words of love and feigned his sickness, so the whole Kingdom felt for him.
This predator groomed Tamar for the reason of wicked lust. Once he raped her, his words turned to utter rejection and hate.
It was ‘never’ Tamar’s fault. It is common for a violent person to blame you for their abuse. Nothing you do or say makes it alright for someone to hurt you; it’s their way of controlling you.
It is your right to have a healthy, safe, and respectful relationship.
It is your God-given right to be free from bodily and emotional harm and psychological abuse.
It’s not right for you to walk on eggshells around that person. You do have a right to pursue people who are worthy of your time and you as a person.
SYMPTOMS OF ABUSE.
Trouble sleeping.
Panic attacks and feelings of anxiety rob you of peace and happiness.
Substance abuse.
Eating disorders.
Flashbacks of violence.
Feelings of self-hate and low self-esteem induce other emotional disorders and harmful actions.
Fear of forming new relationships.
Suicidal thoughts.
Lack of concentration. (brain fog)
Physical Health Conditions and Pain. If you have these symptoms, seek Professional Christian help from a reputable Counsellor. ‘You are allowed’ to express your opinions without ridicule.
It would help if you’d not have to walk on eggshells around someone trying to shut down who you are.
Here are some practical things you can do to embrace your healing.
NOTE THIS: NEVER SETTLE FOR LESS THAN SOMEONE WHO RESPECTS YOU AND IS CONSIDERATE TOWARD YOU!
The first thing, though, you would need to do is “Cast all your cares( anxieties) on Him (Jesus), for He cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:7.
(Talk to him in prayer.) Jesus came to “Heal the broken hearted and set the captive free. He lets the prisoner go free by opening prison doors.” Isa 61: 1-3.
Develop relationships with people whom you can trust. Experience your genuine self again. Transform your mind by renewing it with the Word of God.
Roms 12: 1-2. FOCUS UPON TRUE THOUGHTS ABOUT YOURSELF.
“I love myself.”
“I am worthy.”
“I am beautiful.”
“I am unashamed.”
“In Christ, I am a new creation”
I AM FREE FROM ABUSE, HEALED AND SET FREE!
You have permission from God to ‘move out’ and ‘move on.’ He will take care of you. The longer you stay, the more powerful they become in controlling you.
Being a Christian does not mean you have to be the means of that person’s salvation, for that is God’s responsibility. Keep believing; God has His ways of bringing people to Himself. He has already heard your prayers. It may not be ‘you’ that will lead them to Christ.
Exercise regularly to help yourself release the grief, hurt, and anger. Exercising is beneficial, not self-destructive.
As an abused person, don’t be afraid to seek help. It is a step of bravery for you to open up to another person and receive assistance. Take small steps at a time; healing will come.
LIFE AFTER ABUSE IS POSSIBLE.
You may suffer from intrusive thoughts, flashbacks, and other symptoms resulting from abuse. Know that once you remove yourself from the situation, healing takes place, and it may take time.
Write this down and put it on your fridge.
“I AM NOT DAMAGED GOODS.”
Even scars can heal! Yes, you’ve made wrong choices and made mistakes. Ask God to forgive you and cleanse you from all unrighteousness as He has promised in 1 JOHN 1:9.
Next: FORGIVE YOURSELF!
Once you know without a doubt that God has forgiven you, view yourself from His perspective as :
FORGIVEN,
GLORIOUS BLOOD WASHED,
NO LONGER THE VICTIM,
A VIRGIN, PURE AND HOLY IN HIS SIGHT.
Once Jesus lives in you, you are a “New Creature, and OLD things have passed away, and YES! All Things have become NEW.”
No more a VICTIM, now a VICTOR!
The hardest thing for you to accomplish is to forgive the abuser. You may not feel like forgiving that person, but it does not involve how you feel.
FORGIVENESS IS AN ACT OF YOUR WILL. Ask Jesus to forgive ‘through’ you. He will help you to forgive that person for such despicable behavior toward you. Your feelings will follow your will, and your mind will be at peace, then your body will begin to heal.
Then pray about every relationship you enter, and make sure your connections are pure, God honouring, and centered IN HIM!
GOD DOES HAVE SOMEONE OUT THERE WHO HE HAS READY FOR YOU!
Amen.
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Great Heather..I pray that those whom the world has hurt..may seek Jesus..our Greatest Physician and Mighty Healer..He is God..He is Love..well written mum..x